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Perinatal Grief Scale

Perinatal Grief Scale developed by Judith Lasker
 https://judithlasker.com/perinatal-grief-scale/

Understanding the Perinatal Grief Scale

Score: 33-66

Mild Grief

While you are still experiencing mild to moderate symptoms of grief, you have begun coping and are moving out of despair into hope. Grief is not linear and it is possible to have a higher or lower score depending on different triggers and nearing anniversaries of your loss or the due date. 

 

Work with a therapist, trusted pastor, and your community of family and friends to continue processing your grief. Surround yourself with your community, especially on anniversaries, due date, and holidays. There is no shame or weakness in reaching out for help; your vulnerability is a sign of courage and strength.

 

Continue to care for yourself--physically, emotionally, spiritually, and socially. Reading books on loss, like Finding Hope in the Midst of Miscarriage, will help you to continue learning healthy ways to cope with your grief. You have made great strides to process your grief and are on your way to wholeness and hope.

Score: 67-99

Moderate Grief

You are experiencing moderate levels of grief. You are likely feeling intense pangs of denial, anger, bargaining, or depression. Your child's life has value and the grief process will take time. Grief is not linear so you may feel more intense grief on some days and feel better on others.

 

Taking the Perinatal Grief Scale is a great first step to getting back to a healthy place in your grief. You are making a choice to care for yourself in the midst of your grief--that is a powerful step of courage. It would be greatly beneficial to find a therapist, trusted pastor, and a community of family and friends to help you to continue your grief process. If you are having any thoughts of harming yourself or others, please call 911 or the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at (800)273-8255. 

You are in the middle of a very difficult grief process but there is hope ahead. Reading books on loss, like Finding Hope in the Midst of Miscarriage, will help you to continue learning healthy ways to cope with your grief. Do not give up on yourself or the process. Continue making choices to care for yourself and seek help when needed.

 

Score: 100-132

Severe Grief

You are experiencing extreme levels of grief and despair, and are having difficulty coping with the heartache of your loss. 

 

Take time today to reach out to a therapist that you can see immediately. Let them know that you are experiencing moderate to severe distress and need to be seen as soon as possible. If you are having any thoughts of harming yourself or others, please call 911 or the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at (800)273-8255. Reaching out is not admitting weakness: It takes great courage to reach out for help, but your life is worth it. 

 

It is normal to experience intense grief after losing a child, but your heart and health matter. Continue making choices to care for yourself daily: physically, emotionally, spiritually, and socially. Reading books on loss, like Finding Hope in the Midst of Miscarriage, will help you to continue learning healthy ways to cope with your grief. Today feels dark, but there is light up ahead, even if you can't see it yet.