Updated: Feb 17, 2019
My friends who know me well know that I have a deep aspiration to be like the Proverbs 31 Woman.
I want my life to be used well: to glorify God, bless my husband, and serve my children. As I write this, I am feeding lunch to my two boys and they are shouting for "MORE" in the background. As I serve up cuties, bananas, and Mac'N'Cheese, I can't stop thinking about some comments that a good friend of mine made about Rachel Hollis. Though she does not know Rachel personally, has not read her books or watched her movie, she felt confident in making certain assertions about Rachel and her theology, or lack thereof. I know my friend meant well, but it still broke my heart.
Before I continue, I know I'm going to get some negative feedback and that is precisely why I am sharing: to create a space for honest and RESPECTFUL dialogue.
My friend and many other Christian critics have asserted that Rachel preaches a partial gospel and a skewed theology that could be misleading to new believers. While I wholeheartedly believe that every person is entitled to their theology, whether liberal or conservative, it breaks my heart to see women tearing each other down.
It makes me angry!
The Church is diverse and it is preposterous to think that we would all agree on everything within Biblical Theology. Even harkening back to the beginning of the Church, when Paul and the early Church Council disagreed on some minor theology (particularly circumcision of new Gentile believers in Acts 15), they decided to put that issue to rest--Jewish believers continued circumcising but Gentiles believers were not required to circumcise to receive salvation. I know this seems like an odd aside, but it's important to see that the early Church had disagreements and they worked through them in a respectful way. The Church Council even wrote a letter to show continued support for Paul's ministry, even though they didn't originally agree with him on his minor theology. They could have decided to disown Paul or exclude him from the Church, thus reducing his impact. If you enjoy reading the New Testament, he wrote most of it. So their actions in supporting Paul were of HUGE importance to the future trajectory of the Church and the Bible as we know it today.
Satan only needs to do two things to render the modern Church less effective or completely ineffective in sharing the gospel:
1. Tear down high-capacity and gifted individuals who effectively witness to the name of Jesus, and
2. Divide the body of Christ over minor theology.
In Acts 1:8, Jesus called all believers to be His "witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth." Through reading Rachel Hollis' books and watching her film, I have been able to pick out many key pieces of gospel truth. While that truth isn't spoken with the name of Jesus every single moment, her words are TRUTH. She is being His witness to the ends of the earth!
Rachel Hollis isn't trying to be the new Beth Moore, Lysa TerKeurst, or Shauna Niequist; she is simply being herself, living out her calling to the great commission. The aforementioned women have been key to sharing the gospel of Jesus and are known for sharing His name boldly and consistently, but they speak predominately to women who are already part of the Church body.
1. Rachel carries out a very different calling: speaking truth, love, and empowerment to women who are not already part of the Church, because their faith, sexual orientation, political perspective, etc. preclude them from feeling welcome in the traditional Church.
2. She opens the door of the gospel to women who otherwise wouldn't open it themselves. She is being the Church to the very women who need Jesus most. We need to build her up, not tear her down.
I know the last two statements may come across as abrasive to some with a more conservative theology, but I think that they still bear repeating: Rachel is called to share the gospel to different people, in a different way, and we need to support her ministry, whether or not we agree with her minor theology.
How can we support Rachel in her ministry?
Read Rachel's books, watch her movie, and share them with people who might not readily walk with us into a church.
Pray for Rachel's gospel truth to reach thousands and for their hearts to be able to hear the gospel within her message.
Support Rachel's mission by encouraging her and other women to seek God's help in becoming the very best versions of themselves.
What traits exemplify the Proverbs 31 Woman?
Proverbs 31:10-31--New International Version
A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
Proverbs 31:10-31--The Message
A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long. She shops around for the best yarns and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing. She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places and brings back exotic surprises. She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day. She looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden. First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started. She senses the worth of her work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day. She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking. She’s quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor. She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows; their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear. She makes her own clothing, and dresses in colorful linens and silks. Her husband is greatly respected when he deliberates with the city fathers. She designs gowns and sells them, brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops. Her clothes are well-made and elegant, and she always faces tomorrow with a smile. When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly. She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, and keeps them all busy and productive. Her children respect and bless her; her husband joins in with words of praise: “Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!” Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God. Give her everything she deserves! Festoon her life with praises!
Is Rachel Hollis a Proverbs 31 Woman?
She is a blessing to her husband, Dave! Have you heard that man talk about her? Obviously he's in love and she blesses him in many ways, meeting her "wifely duties," as well as providing for him by taking off some of the financial burden of being the sole provider. Everything she does brings him good, not harm, treating him with generosity.
She is a blessing to her kids! You can hear them in the background of her film. She has her littlest on her hip in most of her photos. She gets up EARLY to make sure their needs are met before she gets started on her business, or she gets up to do her business so that she can be present to meet their needs when they're awake.
She is known in the marketplace! She started her own business, rolled up her sleeves, and did the work. She earned money for her family and became respected in the community, giving her a platform to speak the truth in love.
She creates work of great value! Her business provides for her family's financial needs and meeting the needs of others. She works to empower each woman to be her very best and to live out her God-given calling. She speaks wisdom and says it kindly, in a way that ALL women will be able to hear and understand it.
She does a lot and she looks good doing it! Her hair and clothes are on point but, more importantly, she is clothed with strength and dignity. She faces the future with a smile. She is not just charming and beautiful, but she also fears God.
She deserves honor and praise! Instead of tearing our sister Rachel down, let us lift her up! Let us encourage her in our words and our prayers! She is doing great things for her family and for the kingdom.
Rachel Hollis is a Proverbs 31 Woman and is encouraging many other women towards that goal! Give her the honor she deserves and Praise God for what she is doing!
I wholeheartedly believe that Rachel Hollis is a powerful and inspiring woman of God. She is gifted with the ability to share the gospel with women who might not otherwise hear it and she empowers those same women to reach their God-given potential. I could literally go on and on, break down all of her teaching, and give Bible verse references that support her views, but I think that goes beyond the point here.
There will be disagreement between people in the Church, and that's okay. If we agree on major doctrine and are actively pointing people toward Christ, then we are on the same mission.
Rachel Hollis is a Proverbs 31 Woman!
She is living on mission and she is KILLING IT!
I want to be just like her!
If Rachel Hollis is wrong, I don't wanna be right!
For more information on Rachel Hollis and all the awesome things she does, check out her website at The Chic Site. Read her books, Girl, Wash Your Face and Girl, Stop Apologizing, watch her film, Made for More on Amazon Prime, and join her Facebook group, #MadeForMore.